Love Is In The Air

It’s that time of year when you see red hearts, lacey this and that, roses, poetry, all of that romantic stuff everywhere you turn.

This Hallmark holiday promotes selfless love for others, but I want to flip it around.  How’s your relationship with yourself?  How much love are you receiving from yourself this Valentine’s Day?

Self-love is one of the most important ingredients of an effective training program and is an absolute prerequisite to lifelong health and wellness.  Self-love is the understanding that you deserve kindness and happiness and that the desire to create this happiness must come from within yourself.

Approaching fitness from a place of love and appreciation for yourself and your body leads to sustainable habits and positive results.  The overarching goal of training becomes to nourish yourself; with movement, food, sleep, and calm head-space.  Nourishment looks like patience, sustainability, and progress and your training can follow suit.

Nourishment’s opposition is punishment.  Exercise and dieting often become forms of punishment when we are unhappy with how we look, or guilty about what we’ve eaten.  There are some major problems with this punishment mentality.  It minimizes the effects of training.  Physical training supports us well beyond improving body composition.  If our head is in a negative space, we miss out on a self-discovery process in which most of us find empowerment, confidence, and all sorts of things about ourselves.  A big part of this discovery is understanding your body’s adaptation to varying intensities.  In almost every scenario when exercise is viewed as punishment training intensity is adversely high and working out is not enjoyable.

This mentality leads to very aesthetically driven goals.  “I want to lose 15 lbs” or “I want a six pack.”  This type of goal can provide temporary motivation but is not sustainable for a lifetime.  These goals also lend themselves to harsh and judgmental self-talk.  Sustainable goals aim at the process, not the outcome.  Outcome goals can be beneficial in offering direction.  But alone, they don’t actually bring us closer to achieving what we really want.

Process goals are the real drivers of success, and they require the patience and honesty of self-love.  If you want to lose weight process goals might include wanting to become more consistent with your nutrition or wanting to improve mobility so you can do more compound movements.  Process goals lead to incremental progression and lifelong health and wellness.

Today is Valentine’s Day.  Society is filled with messages of romance and my hope is that you are showered with love.  But, I hope for a love that starts with yourself and leads to sustainable habits and positive training results.

by Bryan Falk-Steinmetz
Fitness Coach, RaceStart Training



Some days are definitely easier than others to get up outta bed. I have moments or even days that I rather curl up and feel sorry for myself- Make excuses about why it’s so hard to juggle “life”.

Then I take a minute to reflect on everything that is important to me and all the sacrifices and hard work that has led me to where I am today.

At that time I think about where I want to be.  Then I think,  what  I am  going to do to make that happen.


Over the last 2 weeks I have removed the words, “try” and “can’t” from my vocabulary. I realize that both words have negative connotations.

I will either “do” or I ”will not do”.

There is no try.

If I want it bad enough I will figure out a solution and make it happen.


Some days are easier than others to find that motivation and drive.

On the days I allow doubt into my head, I am often left asking myself a common question,  

“What am I doing this all for?”

Then I walk into RaceStart and see what I have created.

It’s at that time that a big smile stretches across my face, and then it all comes back to me. The doubt is no longer there…

This is my happy place. I honestly can’t imagine doing anything else. I’m not okay with only giving half the effort-no matter how big or small the task is.

I know that through my training I am able to help motivate others live a healthier life”


Coming to realize this drives that force inside of me to push harder. My athletes, as well as the coaches at RaceStart, inspire me everyday to push harder in life, to train harder, and to be a leader by setting a good example.

I read somewhere that,

“ The most valuable thing you can make is a mistake- You can’t learn anything from being perfect.”

I’ll be the first to admit that I have made plenty of mistakes, but those mistakes have only made me stronger from the inside out.


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I know that I will not be happy unless I give 100%. I am a fitness enthusiast in every way possible and want to share this with my community. I believe this is my purpose and my mission.

Find your happy, and let your passion drive you!

For a great motivational short video click on the button below.

I want to share with you a few quotes from this motivational clip:

“Quitting lasts forever….The decision is yours. How badly do you actually want to achieve your goals? If you got a dream you gotta protect it- Don’t’ let someone tell you can’t do something.

If you want something go after and get it. You have to believe that you can make a difference.

You gotta want it more than you want the party, more than you want to sleep. Make a choice. Decide who you wanna be.

Surround yourself with those that see greatness in you, even when you don’t see it in yourself”


“Find it within yourself to keep moving forward”

“Just because you failed, doesn’t mean that you are a failure”

“Don’t let the distractions distract you”

Start your day out right by clicking on the button below for one of the most inspiring and motivational videos  that I’ve come across.